http://homecookedtheory.com/archives/2007/04/02/on-not-dating/ Tue, 14 Oct 2008 11:56:35 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 http://homecookedtheory.com/archives/2007/04/02/on-not-dating/#comment-52258 Club Troppo » Missing Link Thu, 05 Apr 2007 02:25:38 +0000 http://homecookedtheory.com/archives/2007/04/02/on-not-dating/#comment-52258 [...] Home Cooked Theory examines a regular meme - that “kids aren’t the same nowadays, in our day respect etc. etc.” - with respect to the way teenagers are dating, or not. Mel argues that teenagers are still doing the same things they always did, just in a different way. [...] [...] Home Cooked Theory examines a regular meme - that “kids aren’t the same nowadays, in our day respect etc. etc.” - with respect to the way teenagers are dating, or not. Mel argues that teenagers are still doing the same things they always did, just in a different way. [...]

]]> http://homecookedtheory.com/archives/2007/04/02/on-not-dating/#comment-52212 event mechanics » Blog Archive » Event and Structure: Romance Wed, 04 Apr 2007 07:10:55 +0000 http://homecookedtheory.com/archives/2007/04/02/on-not-dating/#comment-52212 [...] Mel has written a post on some initial thoughts on a book she is working on about new rituals of dating. Her blog is not letting me play and leave a comment, so here is the extended remix: I can’t help but think teenagers and technology are both red herrings here. Well, that’s what Catherine and I are arguing in our book, anyway. The tendency to hedge your bets against commitment, or as Schofield Clark writes, ‘to feel connected to others’ and ‘experience affirmation in an environment that does not risk [one’s] current social position’ seems to be a phenomenon that has been growing for some time, one that has as much to do with class, education, location and work/lifestyle as it does age or technological proficiency. What seems more significant is that feminist movement has been critical in each manifestation of dating. In this sense, if we can attribute the rituals of dating in public to the shared emancipatory desires of the working class and a rebellious upper class - specifically, of women desperate to escape the coercive, surveillant forms of indenture and obligation the family unit and domestic sphere then demanded - then whose interests are being served by the fluid relationships emerging today? [...] [...] Mel has written a post on some initial thoughts on a book she is working on about new rituals of dating. Her blog is not letting me play and leave a comment, so here is the extended remix: I can’t help but think teenagers and technology are both red herrings here. Well, that’s what Catherine and I are arguing in our book, anyway. The tendency to hedge your bets against commitment, or as Schofield Clark writes, ‘to feel connected to others’ and ‘experience affirmation in an environment that does not risk [one’s] current social position’ seems to be a phenomenon that has been growing for some time, one that has as much to do with class, education, location and work/lifestyle as it does age or technological proficiency. What seems more significant is that feminist movement has been critical in each manifestation of dating. In this sense, if we can attribute the rituals of dating in public to the shared emancipatory desires of the working class and a rebellious upper class - specifically, of women desperate to escape the coercive, surveillant forms of indenture and obligation the family unit and domestic sphere then demanded - then whose interests are being served by the fluid relationships emerging today? [...]

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